Pictures

Er, some photos of me.

By Darren James

By Darren James

By Darren James

Filming Australian Story in the UK

Launching 'Would It Kill You to Say Please' by by friend Alice Williams

Doing a talk on a 40 degree day for the Summer Reads program

 

 

 

 

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24 Responses to Pictures

  1. sophie says:

    Hi Kate!
    I just wanted to say how much I loved reading In My Skin. I read it a few years ago and again this weekend, think its one of those books you can read over and over again it would make an amazing tv show or a movie. I went to Melbourne for the first time last year and to be honest going to st Kilda after reading your book made me feel like I had already been there. Your writing is very honest and realistic and its amazing to hear your a teacher now good luck with it and im sure your family are very proud of you.
    take care
    sophie

    • kate says:

      Hi Sophie

      Aren’t you lovely to let me know about my book? Thank you! That means a lot. Especially since you read it TWICE!

      St Kilda has changed and at the same time remained the same. I still go there sometimes and it’s both good and sad. I guess I’ve changed, and not-changed, too. But I’m glad you had a visit.

      And thank you for the nice wishes and I hope you’re reading something wonderful at the moment. You’re very kind to get in touch!

      Cheers xx Kate

  2. Michele says:

    Kate- I just finished your book. I couldn’t put it down & read it in 3 days. I could relate to a lot of your struggles, the redundant act of worrying about acquiring & paying for your ‘fix’ everyday. It’s all so exhausting. I can’t believe how honest your were with your family. Did they really know all of that at the time or find out later? I believe your honestly with your family helped you get clean. What about the speed & drinking do you think you word just substituting one addiction for another like most addicts do? What do you do now to maintain sobriety? Your memoir was fantastic and you are a inspiration to me. Thank you

    • kate says:

      Hi Michele,

      Wow, thanks a lot, you’re so sweet to write to me and take the time. Sounds like you really got into my book! That’s a great compliment. You’re right, my relationship with my family was totally crucial – I did lie and treat them badly, but I never felt I ultimately betrayed them in the ways I feared I would – and they never betrayed me either. Difficult times but we made it. I’m happy to say I don’t have a problem with drink or anything else – gave up smoking last year – I’m not completely against drugs but I don’t have the energy to do them myself anymore. It’s just nice to be healthy.

      I hope you are too, and thanks so much for reading and the message. Hope you have a big pile of good books to keep you going this year.

      Cheers

  3. Deb says:

    What the hell, Kate. May as well ask you as anyone…
    What advice would you have for someone like me, contacted now and then by an old using friend who’s in complete denial?
    ‘I’ll give up soon.’ ‘I’m just bored, that’s why I use’. ‘I can stop any time I like’ etc etc.
    This guy is now 48 and I first met him 20 years ago!
    How do you detach yourself from a hopeless case? How do you stop caring so very much? He’s going to die of it one day and it will break my heart.
    Ciao,
    Deb

    • kate says:

      Hi Debbie,

      Oh, god. It’s such a question. I think about it a lot: how far do we go to help, or tolerate, or endure someone else? How much have we ourselves been helped, tolerated, endured?

      I think I am getting hard in my old age. But if you’re asking me what I’d do in your place with your friend, I’d either ask myself if I can have him as a friend without having expectations he’ll change (ie let him be), or cut him loose. It depends, if he’s hitting you up for money etc, or even heapings of sympathy all the time. If he’s taking things from you that you feel you can’t really afford. If he is, cut him loose.

      But if he’s not asking for things, emotional sustenance or money or excuses, then maybe you can just sit and be his friend? If the positions were reversed what would you like?

      Hope you find the way. Are you doing any writing? How are the birds?

      xxxxx kate

  4. Shelly says:

    I read your book and wow, it was like my old life again. We shared so many of the same circumstances. I remembered you from the methone program, I never spoke or knew you but I judged you so harshly back then. I felt you were self indulgent, arrogant, over educated. How dare you be in the program when you were the only person there that didn’t use? As if you needed methodone, you were not an active user. The articals you wrote only served to show me you were a fake. Some rich kid that had no idea of what it was like. That had no habbit but found the glory of methadone suited her.

    I’m sorry for my judgements, Your book is out standing. You have lived through it all and come out the other side a stronger person. I know what it’s like on the street and in the palour, I’m sure we even had some of the same clients, your descriptions were so good.

    Now I too am clean and have been for over 10 years, that drought that helped you get clean also gave me the strength to give it away. The stuff was crap so it there was little point to it and every reason in the world to “choose life”. I have learnt now to not be so quick to judge others. Having read your book I have gained an insight to you I never knew,

    Keep on writing, you have a beautiful gift to give to the world.

    • kate says:

      Hi Shelley,

      Hah, this might be about my favourite ever letter from a reader. Because you are so honest! And I can’t help thinking that somehow I had a little triumph in changing your mind. I’m very delighted that you did!

      I’m sorry, but I don’t remember you from the methadone program… you mean we queued up at the same chemist? I don’t remember much about that (it was a long time ago, I was distracted and I was on drugs!) so sorry. And I’m a bit confused – I was on methadone but still using for most of the time, maybe you had the impression that I’d just done ‘done but never actually used?

      Anyway, I’m very happy that you changed your opinion of me, and I do hope that I didn’t come across as arrogant in my memoir. I wrote it very much conscious that I couldn’t possibly speak for other users or workers, only for myself. But I have had really good reactions so I hope that whatever things I did to change people’s general impressions of users have been helpful.

      And congrats to you on getting clean – you and I and others know that it’s not just as simple as giving up the drugs – and the new life. I think you and I were part of a huge wave that swept into Melbourne and out again in 2001. Who knows how many hundreds of other women share the story?

      Thanks Shelley, your message really struck a chord with me and I appreciate your honesty.

      All the best

      Xxxx Kate

  5. Demer says:

    Kate,
    I just finished your memoir, I literally could not put it down, and read half of it one sleepless night a few days ago. Your writing is captivating, honest and raw. I found your story to be inspirational, as I have struggled with addiction on a different level and I am finally in a good place. That you persevered and had the strength to fight on, is and was truly courageous. I couldn’t have read your storey at a better time to help me realize my own strengths and weaknesses, and feel that I can be proud of myself.
    Thank you so much for sharing your amazing storey Kate.
    xoxDemer

    • kate says:

      Hi Demer

      I’m so glad you liked the book, and you’re one of those people who couldn’t put it down! I’m especially glad to hear from someone who could empathise, though of course I’m not happy to hear you have had struggles. Congratulations on getting things together and I hope life now is much better. When I wrote my book I really only meant it as a record of what happened with me, but it’s amazing to think that people read it and get something from it. That really means so much to me.

      Thank you for letting me know, that’s really kind of you. Good on you Demer and good luck with the future!

      Xxxxx Kate

  6. Megan says:

    Like Lisa I have just finished ‘In My Skin’ in 3 days and already feeling bereft without it! What a compelling book and so very “addictive”!! I live 1,000km from St Kilda but your clever writing style has made it seem so ‘local’. Thank you so much for sharing your amazing story.

    • kate says:

      Hi Megan,

      It’s funny, it’s years and years now since I wrote or read In My Skin and I sometimes wonder what it’s like to read it. Thank you so much for the message, that’s so sweet of you to take the time to let me know you liked it. I guess it’s probably nicer to read about that time in St Kilda than it was to live it – but I’m glad I have a record to remember.

      I did try to make it a good description of Melbourne in the 90s but now wish I’d put in more names of places and more detail. Someone told me once that when her friend visited Melbourne the first thing she wanted to see was St Kilda and all the places I’d mentioned!

      Happy reading Megan, there are lots of great memoirs out there to enjoy. And thanks again for the message.

      Xxx Kate

  7. Ali says:

    Hi Kate, I thought in my skin was fascinating. It’s not often you find such an honest piece of writing. What an incredibly resilient person you must be! Thanks for a refreshing read xo

    • kate says:

      Hi Ali,

      Thank you and sorry it took a while to reply, but I’m really happy you liked the book. You’re very kind!

      Kate

  8. L.A.R.F says:

    Kate,
    I read your book while on holiday in thailand this year, i loved it. it was recommended to me by a friend.
    I used Heroin from the age of 15. I started “working” full time when i turned 18. I then worked almost everyday till i was 23 to support my habit.
    Your book helped me to see myself in a different light.
    I have always wanted to write a memoir but my boyfriend and family said it would not be a good idea. I am now determined to write it with or without their support, I am putting together all my diaries so i can also document my daily struggles in my working life and the determination it takes to get free from Heroin.
    I have to thank you for In my skin, You changed my life.
    But i have some questions; how was your book received by your family and friends? did your family and friends like the way they were portrayed? did you ever feel shame for having to go through those things and writing about it? if not was the success of the book enough to put that all aside and hold your head up high? what are the pros and cons of having it all hang out for everyone to see?
    I am just scared of how my story would be received as it is a lot darker.
    once again thank you. looking forward to reading The Romantic.

    • kate says:

      Hi,

      Wow, thanks for the email, and to your friend for recommending it. Letters from readers like you who’ve also ‘been there’ always mean a lot to me. When I wrote ‘In My Skin’ I never expected there were so many women with similar stories who would get in touch. I’m so relieved you liked it.

      I totally encourage you to write out your experiences, I found that setting them out on a page was very helpful (and kind of calming) even though some parts were difficult to write about. Do that for yourself. But if you don’t mind me saying so, publishing (or even just showing it to others) is another step which should be considered seriously. I’m not at all saying DON’T, because publishing my book was the best thing I ever did and I am constantly amazed by how kindly and sympathetically readers react. But it’s a big thing to do.

      My family was fine, my friends also, and most reviewers and so on. And I never felt ashamed. The thing I that wonder about is how writing the book makes me kind of cover up how I FEEL about those times. It’s complicated. So I say write your story, but think a lot before you show it around, and think about how best to write it for other people instead of yourself. Does that make sense?

      The most important thing is to be honest – with others, with readers, with yourself – and about your own hesitations.

      Anyway, thanks again for getting in touch, and sharing your story with me. Good luck with whatever you do next!

      Cheers xxxx Kate

  9. Lisa says:

    Kate,
    I’ve just finished reading In My Skin and felt compelled to leave you a message. What a moving piece. I haven’t read a book in years yet I managed to read yours in 3 days. You are such a strong woman and your determination to succeed is truely inspiring. I can not wait to read The Romantic!

    Take care,
    Lisa

    • kate says:

      Hi Lisa

      Oh how sweet you are to let me know you liked my book. I am always so touched when people contact me. Three days! That’s a pretty fair effort! I will consider that a great compliment. 🙂

      The Romantic is a bit different but more of my story of trying to work out a way in the world. Personally, I like it a bit better than IMS but then, perhaps it’s just that i haven’t read IMS for a long time… Happy reading and thank you again, you’re very kind.

      Best

      Kate

  10. Paul says:

    As the husband of a sex worker, “In My Skin” has helped me to understand some of the workings of the industry…some things that my partner would not tell me and I guess, some things I would have been scared to ask. Thank you for your honesty, though at times brutal, it has made all the difference.

    Paul

    • kate says:

      Hi Paul,

      Wow, that means a lot to me, to have helped someone in your position understand things a bit better. I can imagine that your position is complicated and I applaud you for wanting to get a deeper comprehension of what your partner does. I wrote the book thinking of people who don’t know anything about drugs or sex work; but of course, it is read by people who know a great deal about one or both, and when they think it’s worth reading I feel really proud. Thanks so much for the message, it’s lovely of you to let me know. Much appreciated.

      Best

      Kate

  11. Michelle says:

    Hi Kate,

    I literally just finished reading your first book, ‘In My Skin’ and very much look forward to reading ‘The Romantic’. Your success in rising above and freeing yourself is amazing for you and I could only imagine the joy from your loving family. 🙂

    I write here because I wonder how the ‘ex loves of your life’ are travelling these days? I feel sad and I cannot help but think about all of them – James, Robbie, the young boy who you exchanged emails (I think I fell in love with him too lol) & other mains from your autobiography… Were they lucky enough to escape their demons? Do you keep in touch or better still are they alive? Also Jake and Vicki, where are they now and are they clean etc..?

    P.S. I can understand if you left that life behind in its entirety and my questions cannot be answered 🙂 But if you did eventually go back and tracked them down, I’d love to know the outcomes..

    Kind regards
    Michelle

    • kate says:

      Hi Michelle,

      Thanks a lot for the message! It’s lovely to hear from a reader, makes it all seem so precious. Sounds like you really got into the book.

      And I’m happy to say that most of the people in the book, those I still know or know about, are well. I was lucky, no one really close to me passed away though other acquaintances did. James I am no longer in contact with, but Robbie is hale and well and making a great fist of life these days. Jake and Vicki are both clean and well I believe. Everyone I started using with is getting on with their lives. But you’re right, it’s good to look back and think about people who became ‘characters’ in the book but who are real people with real lives.

      Thanks for the message, happy reading

      xxxxx Kate

  12. jodene says:

    your are an inspiration to me i am also a sex worker. your story is truly beautiful i could relate to every word although im not a drug user of any sort …. you jus took every word out of my mouth i admire your complete honesty and strength to share your story……………….

    • kate says:

      Hi Jodene, thank you so much for leaving the comment and I’m thrilled you liked the book. It means a lot to me when other sex workers think I got it right. And for what it’s worth, I found that disclosing my previous work was one of the most empowering things I ever did. I hope your work is going well. And thanks again.

      Best

      Kate

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